No matter how many times I am to be asked to pick one between friends and family, with no hesitation, I would answer, 'family.' Family is all I have and no matter how much I love and care for my friends, it would never reach the point of loving my own family. I do admit, there are various areas where friends are in need and that I could choose friends over family, but ever since last year, I know for sure, without my father, mother, and brother I wouldn't be existing at this moment, even writing this essay.
I see many people of my age pick friends over family and I absolutely understand and do not look down on them. We all lived in different background with distinct people, therefore, not everyone's answer is going to be the same. I see teenagers often choose their friends over family with reasons; they understand better, they know the situation I am in, and they are who I spend the most time with, therefore, they will always be by me.
To the contrary, I must mention, family might seem to not understand you, but they do and the only reason you may think that they don't is because they are being real, and only thinking about you, just for your benefit. Family also might seem to not understand the situation you are in, maybe because they are older or because they did not experience the things that you are experiencing, but he or she once was a teenager just like you, therefore, even though the situation might not be the same, they can always figure out what sort of situation you are in. Lastly, you may think that family does not know better about you because they do not spend enough time with you, but they see the real you. And for them, just seeing the face in a minute could explain how you are feeling at that time. This is because they are your family, who you have been living with, the ones you have been showing the real 'you.'
Just as I mentioned above, I did only spent time with my friends but I soon figured, that was not all. As soon as I went to overseas, I soon figured what 'family' is. Why there is a family and why people always mention family is all you have. Before this I only shared and talked most of my concerns with my friends but from then on, I attempted to appreciate the existence of my family. Then the time came. The first time I realized that a person cannot be trusted fully, that you never know what the person is thinking. After that realization, I knew I had a family but still, at that time, it was too hard for me to open up my mind. I thought they knew nothing about me, but that was not true. They knew all about me and they were at all time willing to listen and to know my thoughts.
Family and friends, they are named differently and I do not demand for you to choose only one. Both are needed in your life. Family where you can always go back to, feeling as a shelter that gives you a break to breathe just the way you want to and allow you to think and talk as you like. Friends, who you can laugh and share the moment that is new to both and to giggle nonstop. Both are too precious to give up one, but only if I was asked to pick one, my choice will be the family.
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